Postcard created by someone in or from foster care, as part of FCAA's Culture of Foster Care PostCard Project.I grew up in just about all aspects of the system. Starting with Kinship care, then facilities, group homes and foster homes. I think the happiest times were when I was with my grandparents.
One of the things I knew at a young age is that I didn't want to turn out like my parents. My Father is a drug addict who spent most of my life in prison, and my mom -- well she tried hard but never really got a grasp on how to be a parent.
Now I am pregnant with my first child. I want my baby to have a better life than I did and for months now I have been afraid that even though I want so much for him, I will find myself following in my parents footsteps. All parents want more for their children than what they had, but that want didn't do much for my siblings and me. I feared that somehow my genes will keep me from being a good parent.
Then I read FLUX. The chapter on how to be a good parent really helped calm my fears. It was a comfort to me knowing that I was not the only one who has been consumed with these thoughts. This paticular chapter of the book has helped me so much. Becoming a parent is a wonderful but really scary experence. I feel more comfortable with myself after reading the book and would recomend it to anyone who is having the same concerns and feelings I have.
One of the things I knew at a young age is that I didn't want to turn out like my parents. My Father is a drug addict who spent most of my life in prison, and my mom -- well she tried hard but never really got a grasp on how to be a parent.
Now I am pregnant with my first child. I want my baby to have a better life than I did and for months now I have been afraid that even though I want so much for him, I will find myself following in my parents footsteps. All parents want more for their children than what they had, but that want didn't do much for my siblings and me. I feared that somehow my genes will keep me from being a good parent.
Then I read FLUX. The chapter on how to be a good parent really helped calm my fears. It was a comfort to me knowing that I was not the only one who has been consumed with these thoughts. This paticular chapter of the book has helped me so much. Becoming a parent is a wonderful but really scary experence. I feel more comfortable with myself after reading the book and would recomend it to anyone who is having the same concerns and feelings I have.
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